Loving Yourself Isn’t Easy
Doing 3 Hard Things
During a recent conversation about self-love, I came across a common misconception. Many people believe that as long as they don’t express self-hatred, it means they love themselves. They erroneously equate self-care such as manicures and pedicures to self-love. I can shatter your fiction of self-love with three questions, but that’s not a positive spin. I would rather help you build your self-love with 3 beginner practices. In order to love yourself, there are three important practices you must consistently undertake. Let me explain.
ONE: Speak kindly to yourself, especially in moments when you make mistakes or wrong choices. Instead of being harsh, be compassionate and encouraging. For example, say phrases like, “This was a lesson I needed to learn. I have gained wisdom from it and I will not repeat the same mistake. I am worthy of better, and I will consistently make better choices.”
TWO: Make healthier choices, not only in terms of food but also in all aspects of your life. Even if it’s tempting to indulge in unhealthy treats, make a conscious effort to choose options that benefit your physical and spiritual well-being. For instance, prioritize exercise over staying in bed or sitting in front of the television. If you value your screen time, watch while riding a stationary bike or walking on a treadmill. Work on improving your body’s circulation, mobility, and strength. Similarly, opt for watching educational content like documentaries or motivational speeches instead of mindless reality TV. Engaging in activities that enhance your knowledge and growth will have a positive impact on you. Remember, making these choices may be challenging at first, but the long-term rewards are worth it.
Commit to a mental note similar to: “I will intentionally feed myself health, wisdom, and balance through food, media, and social interactions.”
THREE: Redirect your energy towards sustainability (growth mindset) cultivating gratitude. In moments when you see others achieving success or experiencing financial growth, instead of feeling envy or resentment, choose to appreciate and find inspiration in their achievements. For example, when you pass by luxurious mansions, say phrases like, “I appreciate the beautiful architecture. These houses resemble the kind of environment I would love to live in. I am grateful for my own experiences and the discernment that helps me recognize what brings me joy.” By focusing on positive outcomes and being grateful for what you have, you are magnetically attracting your own happiness and success. Trust that things will fall into place at the right time; the universe is rigged in your favor.
Incorporate these three practices into your daily life as a foundation for consistently loving yourself. Soon enough, you’ll find yourself not only thanking me but also thanking yourself. That’s the true power of self-love. If you want help releasing yourself and nurturing self-love and holistic health, contact Dr. Michael A. Wright for a consultation.
