Losing Them & Finding Yourself: Closure and Recovery after Ghosting Relationships

INTRODUCTION TO THE TRAINING
Welcome to the Losing Them training. This training is designed to help you recover, find resilience, and heal from a painful break-up, job loss, or other situation where the reasons are unclear, fabricated, or destructive. Loss can be difficult to process without information. It can leave you feeling lost, hurt, and uncertain about your future. The goal of this training is to help you find the fortitude required to recover and heal, even amid grief and uncertainty.

Over the course of this training, you will learn about the reasoning needs and character traits necessary to navigate loss, build an individual vision, and manage change in productive ways. You will also learn how to protect your emotional space and respect the autonomy of others without losing collaborative opportunities. By the end of this training, you will have the tools, strategies, and mindset necessary to heal, grow, and thrive, even after losing someone or something that was important to you.

EXPLANATIONS
Following are the explanations for each of the reasoning needs and character traits:
Reasoning Needs
1. Closure: You will not receive closure in every situation, but you can create it for yourself.
2. Explanation: Accept that some actions don’t have explanations. Some things cannot be explained.
3. Apology: Cultivate the accountability and humility to admit when your actions contributed to another’s pain.
4. Collaboration: Create individual vision without isolating oneself from opportunities for collaboration.
5. Emotional Space: Continue to look for your tribe rather than attempting to fit.

Character Traits
1. Ownership: What people think and do is about them not you.
2. Autonomy: You cannot change people no matter how much you think they need to change.
3. Personhood: Protect yourself through self-development rather than defending against others.
4. Resourcefulness: Use what you have to achieve what you want.
5. Productive Change: Produce without aggression, without striving.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES:
1. Define the concept of closure and how to create it for oneself.
2. Develop strategies for coping with the fact that some actions do not have explanations.
3. Identify a pathway to navigate situations where an apology may not be forthcoming.
4. Create individual vision without isolating oneself from opportunities for collaboration.
5. Secure emotional space and develop strategies for protecting it.
6. Apply the concept of ownership in interpersonal relationships.
7. Define autonomy and accept the limitations of one’s ability to change others.
8. Outline how personal trauma can impact the behavior of others.
9. Assess your resources and build from them to achieve vision, change, and security.
10. Strategize how to create change in productive ways without exerting control or possessiveness.

Let’s get started on this journey of recovery and growth together. Define your value by yourself alone and know that you are enough.